Depending on how demanding your daughter is you might not get the chance to decide on your own outfit at her wedding. However, even if sporting her chosen cut and colour scheme is the case on the big day, there are still many opportunities for the mother of the bride to shine in her own style during the celebrations.
If you’re looking for some MoB outfit inspiration for one particular occasion, be it the hen do or the rehearsal soirée, you’ll find all the pointers you’ll need in our four-stage guide below. Being the bride’s mother really needn’t be a stress, trust us.
The Engagement Party
Informal, fun and full of the party spirit, a chic, smart-casual dress is one way to dazzle at the engagement drinks. Now that spring has arrived, bright colours and bold designs are very in season so for a daytime shindig, like a long lunch, garden party or barbecue, opt for a dress in a feminine, floral print or in a vibrant paisley pattern. For a night-time affair, darker hues such as deep purple, red or navy blue ooze evening glamour.
The Hen Do
Big night out with the girls planned? Sounds great, but what to wear? Don’t feel obliged to emulate the other hens in tight tops or shorter skirts, there are plenty of ways to dress up and feel glamorous without flashing flesh or feeling uncomfortable. A knee-length black or block-coloured shift dress can be jazzed up with big jewels, and a printed tunic can be party-fied with a pair of sparkly shoes. And if dresses really aren’t your thing, a pair of slinky black skinny jeans teamed with some comfortable heels is a fail-safe way to feel sophisticated and stylish when hitting the tiles.
The Rehearsal Dinner
Planning (and buying) separate outfits for both the wedding and the rehearsal dinner can be a bit of a hassle – it’s hard enough finding one perfect outfit, right?! As the wedding rehearsal is, erm, just a rehearsal, there’s no need to worry too much about what you’re wearing. If it’s a daytime occasion, a light and floaty dress with cardigan is a nice and relaxed look, whereas for an evening affair, a sharp pair of tailored trousers with a smart top or fitted blazer is a flattering, more formal outfit. To avoid looking like you’re off to the office, we suggest going for a gorgeous pair of printed trousers like the ones below.
You only have to Google ‘mother of the bride’ the once to be bombarded with a list of rules on what you should and shouldn’t wear on your daughter’s special day. Along with the obvious “don’t wear white!”, dressing for your age, coordinating with the bridal party and upstaging the bride are all absolute no-nos too!
So, what should the mother of the bride wear?
Well, if the bride hasn’t suggested a colour scheme already, we suggest thinking about the colours you love and feel most comfortable in firstly. Secondly, seek out as many dresses as you can in those colours in order to find the perfect-fitting style.
For a spring/summer wedding, pastel colours are very complementary (think peach, lilac, lemon and baby blue) and can made brighter by adding eye-catching accessories such as a patterned shawl or scarf, a zesty clutch bag or a statement fascinator. But again, if you’re not comfortable wearing a dress, especially on such a long, busy day, a fitted trouser suit looks just a smart and stylish – just be sure to avoid black or grey.
Our most important rule for being mother of the bride is to just find an outfit you feel fabulous in.